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- 2. Self-concept: Picture orperception of ourselves Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves Self-ideal: The way we would like to be Definitions
- 3. How is self-conceptbuild & destroyed Building • Find a good role model • Praise & compliments • Focus on the positive • Keep criticism to a minimum • Set & achieve goals Destroyed • Comparing yourself to others • Putting yourself down • Drug abuse
- 4. How do valuesand morals fit into feeling good about yourself? • Knowing yourself is a prerequisite to a good self esteem • Discover your values – a value is something you strongly believe in • Live by what you value – the closer your values come to your actions the happier you will be.
- 5. Self-Concept Circle 1. Theperson I think I am. 2. The person others think I am. 3. The person others think I think I am. My Actions As Others See Me Other’s Reactions to Me As I See Myself
- 6. Self-Esteem Self-esteem begins toform in early childhood. Factors that can influence self-esteem include: • Your thoughts and perceptions • How other people react to you • Experiences at home, at school and in the community • Illness, disability or injury • Age • Media messages • Relationships with those close to you — parents, siblings, peers, teachers and other important contacts — are important to your self-esteem.
- 7. Self-esteem tends tofluctuate, depending on your circumstances. It's normal to go through stages when you feel down about yourself and times when you feel good about yourself. Generally, however, self-esteem stays in a range that reflects how you feel about yourself overall and increases slightly with age.
- 8. Low Self-Esteem When youhave low self-esteem, you tend to put very little value on your ideas and opinions. You focus on your perceived faults and weaknesses. You give yourself very little credit for your skills and assets. You can tend to think that others are more successful or capable than you. Accepting positive feedback can be difficult. You might also fear failure, which can hold you back from succeeding in school. “Self-respect IS the best respect”
- 9. Some of themany causes of low self-esteem may include: •Unhappy childhood where parents (or other significant people such as teachers) were extremely critical •Poor academic performance in school resulting in a lack of confidence •Ongoing stressful life event such as relationship breakdown or financial trouble •Poor treatment from a partner, parent or carer, for example, being in an abusive relationship •Ongoing medical problem such as chronic pain, serious illness or physical disability •Mental illness such as an anxiety disorder or depression. Causes of low self-esteem
- 10. Low self-esteem andquality of life • A low self-esteem can reduce the quality of a person’s life in many different ways, including: • Negative feelings – the constant self-criticism can lead to persistent feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, shame or guilt. • Relationship problems – for example they may tolerate all sorts of unreasonable behavior from partners because they believe they must earn love and friendship, cannot be loved or are not loveable. Alternatively, a person with low self-esteem may feel angry and bully other people. • Fear of trying – the person may doubt their abilities or worth and avoid challenges.
- 11. •Perfectionism – aperson may push themselves and become an over- achiever to ‘atone’ for what they see as their inferiority. •Fear of judgement – they may avoid activities that involve other people, like sports or social events, because they are afraid they will be negatively judged. The person feels self-conscious and stressed around others and constantly looks for ‘signs’ that people don’t like them. Low self-esteem and quality of life
- 12. •Low resilience –a person with low self-esteem finds it hard to cope with a challenging life event because they already believe themselves to be ‘hopeless’. •Lack of self-care – the person may care so little that they neglect or abuse themselves, for example, drink too much alcohol. •Self-harming behaviors – low self-esteem puts the person at increased risk of self-harm, for example, eating disorder, drug abuse or suicide. Low self-esteem and quality of life
- 13. Tips for buildingSelf Esteem • Identify with people, books, videos, television shows, etc., that build your self-esteem • Build others – give sincere compliments often • Think positively • Set and achieve goals • Do something challenging each day • Look your best • Eat correctly • Do something for someone else
- 14. • Learn anew skill • “Act as if” you possess traits you would like to have • Observe self-concept people • Handle things one at a time • Use criticism constructively • Ask for help – take advantage of learning opportunities • Improve your personal living space • Allow personal growth time each day • Post self-improvement reminders in obvious places • Do not say negative things about yourself • Reward yourself often • List your accomplishments each evening • Volunteer to share your skills with others
- 15. Healthy Self-Esteem When youhave healthy self-esteem, it means you have a balanced and positive view of yourself. For example, you have a good opinion of your abilities, but you also recognise that you have flaws just like everyone else.
- 16. Interesting Fact: Feelingsuperior to others and being boastful are usually not a sign of too much self-esteem. In fact, psychologists believe that it is more likely a sign of insecurity and low self-esteem.
- 17. Benefits of HealthySelf-Esteem When you value yourself and have healthy self-esteem, you feel worthwhile and secure. Your relationships with others are generally positive and you feel confident about your abilities. You’re also open to feedback and learning, which can help you obtain and master new skills.
- 18. With healthy self-esteem,you are: • Able to express your needs and opinions in an assertive way • Confident in your ability to make decisions • Able to form secure relationships and generally less likely to stay in unhealthy ones • Realistic in your expectations • Not as overcritical of yourself and others • More resilient • Able to handle stress and setbacks in a better way
- 19. Benefits of ImprovingSelf-Esteem • Overall happiness • Believing that you are more deserving of good things in life • Less chance of self-sabotage • You do not constantly need to seek validation from others. • You start truly believing that you are enough just as you are – flaws and all.
- 20. How to ImproveYour Self-Esteem 2. Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change.
- 21. How to ImproveYour Self-Esteem 7. Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth
- 22. 8. Have RealisticExpectations – We expect to much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal. We grow with models who appear to be perfect at everything. Hero’s are good to look at but they have their problems too How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
- 23. How to ImproveYour Self-Esteem 9. Emphasize your strengths. 10. Change what can be changed. Some things fast, others gradual, and others never. There are things we inherit but we can change our attitude about it.Try new experiences.
- 24. Self-esteem affects virtuallyevery area of your life. Having a healthy, realistic view of yourself is not about boasting and thinking you are superior. It’s about learning to like and respect yourself — faults and all.
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