Changing our self talk

Changing our self talk

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  CHANGING OUR SELF- TALK Examining howwe talk to ourselves Created by I M Confident Niagara Canada
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   Self-talk ishow you talk to yourself, either aloud or silently and mentally.  An internal conversation where you provide opinions and evaluations about yourself.  Can be either positive or negative and both have an impact on how you feel about yourself. WHAT IS SELF-TALK?
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   Boosts yourconfidence  Keeps you from feeling depressed or negative  Eliminates stress  Keeps you healthier  Improves your body, mind and soul  Helps build good relationships  Increases happiness and success POSITIVE SELF-TALK
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   Destroys self-esteem Distorts views of people and situations  Creates a negative perspective  Causes communication breakdowns  Tears apart relationships  Limits abilities  Limits happiness and success  Causes stress NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
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   Research showsthat we have a negative bias, that we tend to think more negative thoughts than positive thoughts  We think thousands of thoughts each day and over 80% are negative  Living in a negative environment creates a bad habit of negative thinking  We talk to ourselves in a negative way and become own worst enemy  Need to work hard to focus on positive thinking NEGATIVE THINKING IS MORE NATURAL….
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   We don’tdo anything right  Will never have any friends  Have no value  Nobody will ever love us  Will never be happy or successful  There is no hope Negative thinking can destroy our entire world! WHAT NEGATIVE THINKING TELLS US
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   You aregetting a vaccine as a child and the doctor says, “This is going to hurt”. So every time you get a needle, you expect that it will hurt. Everyone has a different pain tolerance and may not experience pain, so this is a false statement.  Your mother tells you not to sit on a public toilet seat because it is dirty. This can create a fear of using public toilets. It would have been better to show you how to clean or cover the seat so you could use it comfortably.  A friend tells you about a new employee at your company who is “very mean and you should stay away from them”. This will probably stop you from even finding out what that person is really like. They might be a very nice person, but somebody has experienced a personality conflict with them and has a biased opinion. NEGATIVITY FROM THE PAST
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  1. Become awareof your thoughts 2. Listen to what you are actually saying 3. Think about how your words make you feel 4. Change any negative words into positive words 5. Keep practising daily HOW TO CHANGE SELF-TALK
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  POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE SELF-TALK? Arethese statements positive or negative? 1. I’m too stupid to learn anything. No point going to college. 2. I’m so fat, I will never lose weight. No point going on a diet or exercising. 3. I’m not a good communicator, but I try hard to talk to people. 4. I make a lot of mistakes, but I always try to learn something and do better the next time. 5. Nobody likes me so I will never have any friends. 6. I have a great family who supports me and loves me.
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  1. I CAN’Tbecomes I CAN. 2. I WON’T becomes I WILL. 3. I DON’T becomes I DO. 4. I SHOULDN’T becomes I SHOULD. 5. I’M NOT becomes I AM 6. I’M AFRAID becomes I’M NOT AFRAID. NEGATIVE WORDS CAN BECOME POSITIVE WORDS
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  CHANGING NEGATIVE TO POSITIVE Changethese negative statements into positive statements. 1. I’m too stupid to learn anything. 2. I’m so fat, I will never lose weight. 3. Nobody likes me. 4. I can’t do anything right. 5. Everyone tells me I’m a loser. 6. My life is a mess.
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   Positive peoplecan lift your mood and help you focus on staying positive  Meet with people who have same interests as you – a group, club, church, meeting, sports  Eliminate or cut down on time spent with negative people (may be hard with close family or friends but do the best you can)  Develop a positive perspective and then influence any negative people you come in contact with Can you think of any people who have a positive influence on you? SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
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   Read inspirationalbooks  Listen to upbeat, happy music  Watch family, funny movies on TV  Put up comforting, colourful pictures or poster with motivational sayings  Have comfortable furniture and colourful decorations  Get a pet (if you like animals) Name some positive things that you could surround yourself with? SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE THINGS
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   Go tospots that are warm and friendly  Enjoy the beauty in nature  Meet a friend for coffee  Take your family out to dinner  Avoid dark, dangerous places Name some positive places that you enjoy going to. BE IN POSITIVE PLACES