Encouraging Open Dialogue in Teams

Some thoughts on "Feedback." We have to get comfortable with listening to things that are hard to hear.   When you manage people or work with people as an IC, if you do it right, there should be an open flow of communication about what’s working and what’s not.   And that can be one of the hardest parts of your job – accepting and digesting critical feedback.   To sit, and seek to understand, and temper the very real human reaction to jump and defend yourself or protect your own self-perception.   That is the real work of creating trust within your team.   “That was hard for me to hear how XXX is impacting you and the team, and I am sorry that I did not see it sooner. I would like to understand more from your perspective on how you think we can address this gap/lack of clarity/etc. Are there tangible things that you think we can be doing / do better to address this? We can also work to piece together which pieces of this we can control, and which pieces are realities that we will need to build buffers around in the short term to clear the runway for the team.”   Because here is the thing – people will ALWAYS have critical feedback. And you can either create a culture where your team feels comfortable bringing it to you, or you can create a culture where they discuss it in Slack and texts behind your back. Regardless, the feedback WILL flow, that is human nature, and only one of those scenarios allows you to do anything about it.   A sign of a great people leader is not in building a team where everything is working for everyone all the time, but in developing a TRUE understanding of the state of the state of your team fed with insight directly from them. 

One of the hardest balances to master as a leader is staying informed about your team’s work without crossing the line into micromanaging them. You want to support them, remove roadblocks, and guide outcomes without making them feel like you’re hovering. Here’s a framework I’ve found effective for maintaining that balance: 1. Set the Tone Early Make it clear that your intent is to support, not control. For example: “We’ll need regular updates to discuss progress and so I can effectively champion this work in other forums. My goal is to ensure you have what you need, to help where it’s most valuable, and help others see the value you’re delivering.” 2. Create a Cadence of Check-Ins Establish structured moments for updates to avoid constant interruptions. Weekly or biweekly check-ins with a clear agenda help: • Progress: What’s done? • Challenges: What’s blocking progress? • Next Steps: What’s coming up? This predictability builds trust while keeping everyone aligned. 3. Ask High-Leverage Questions Stay focused on outcomes by asking strategic questions like: • “What’s the biggest risk right now?” • “What decisions need my input?” • “What’s working that we can replicate?” This approach keeps the conversation productive and empowering. 4. Define Metrics and Milestones Collaborate with your team to define success metrics and use shared dashboards to track progress. This allows you to stay updated without manual reporting or extra meetings. 5. Empower Ownership Show your trust by encouraging problem-solving: “If you run into an issue, let me know your proposed solutions, and we’ll work through it together.” When the team owns their work, they’ll take greater pride in the results. 6. Leverage Technology Use tools like Asana, Jira, or Trello to centralize updates. Shared project platforms give you visibility while letting your team focus on execution. 7. Solicit Feedback Ask your team: “Am I giving you enough space, or would you prefer more or less input from me?” This not only fosters trust but also helps you refine your approach as a leader. Final Thought: Growing up playing sports, none of my coaches ever suited up and got in the game with the players on the field. As a leader, you should follow the same discipline. How do you stay informed without micromanaging? What would you add? #leadership #peoplemanagement #projectmanagement #leadershipdevelopment

Early in my career, I worked with two very different leaders within the same company. Under the first, team meetings were silent affairs where new ideas were often met with criticism. We stopped contributing. When I moved teams, my new manager actively encouraged input and acknowledged every suggestion, even the imperfect ones. Our productivity and innovation skyrocketed. This experience taught me the power of psychological safety. That feeling that you won't be punished or humiliated for speaking up with ideas, questions, or concerns. Here are three concrete ways leaders can foster psychological safety in meetings: 1. Practice "Yes, and..." thinking. Replace "That won't work because..." with "Yes, and we could address that challenge by..." This simple language shift acknowledges contributions while building on ideas rather than shutting them down. 2. Create equal airtime. Actively notice who's speaking and who isn't. Try techniques like round-robin input or asking quieter team members directly: "Alyzah, we haven't heard your perspective yet. What are your thoughts?" 3. Normalize vulnerability by modeling it. Share your own mistakes and what you learned. When leaders say "I was wrong" or "I don't know, let's figure it out together," it gives everyone permission to be imperfect. AA✨ #PsychologicalSafety #InclusiveLeadership #WorkplaceBelonging

I once had a team of insecure overachiever analysts. They were introverts, brilliant at their work, and incredibly nice people. Too nice, as it turned out. They were so nice that they wouldn't tell each other what was really going on. Instead, they'd come to me: "So-and-so is doing this thing that's really annoying. Can you do something about it?" I got sick of everyone putting me in the middle instead of taking ownership of their issues with each other. So I did something about it. I brought in trainers from the Center for Creative Leadership to teach everyone the Situation-Behavior-Impact (SBI) model (link in comments). The process was simple but powerful: 1. Describe the situation so everyone's on the same page. 2. Share the specific behavior you observed (no judgments about intent). 3. Explain the impact on you or the other people in the room. We started with positive feedback to create safety. We practiced saying things like, “When you walked into that meeting with a big smile, the impact was that it put everyone at ease." Everyone started spotlighting the good that was happening, and that encouraged more thoughtful interactions. Then, we practiced constructive feedback—harder, but even more important. The impact was almost immediate. Soon, I heard people asking each other, "Hey, can I give you an SBI?" The framework made it safe. More importantly, we came to give and receive feedback for the gift that it is. That ability to give and receive honest, thoughtful feedback is the foundation of every healthy team culture. But it's a skill we rarely train for. I’m curious: What frameworks have you used in your organizations to create a culture of feedback?

I’ve found myself navigating meetings when a colleague or team member is emotionally overwhelmed. One person came to me like a fireball, angry and frustrated. A peer had triggered them deeply. After recognizing that I needed to shift modes, I took a breath and said, “Okay, tell me what's happening.” I realized they didn’t want a solution. I thought to myself: They must still be figuring out how to respond and needed time to process. They are trusting me to help. I need to listen. In these moments, people often don’t need solutions; they need presence. There are times when people are too flooded with feelings to answer their own questions. This can feel counterintuitive in the workplace, where our instincts are tuned to solve, fix, and move forward. But leadership isn’t just about execution; it’s also about emotional regulation and providing psychological safety. When someone approaches you visibly upset, your job isn’t to immediately analyze or correct. Instead, your role is to listen, ground the space, and ensure they feel heard. This doesn't mean abandoning accountability or ownership; quite the opposite. When people feel safe, they’re more likely to engage openly in dialogue. The challenging part is balancing reassurance without minimizing the issue, lowering standards, or compromising team expectations. There’s also a potential trap: eventually, you'll need to shift from emotional containment to clear, kind feedback. But that transition should come only after the person feels genuinely heard, not before. Timing matters. Trust matters. If someone is spinning emotionally, be the steady presence. Be the one who notices. Allow them to guide the pace. Then, after the storm passes, and only then, you can invite reflection and growth. This is how you build a high-trust, high-performance culture: one conversation, one moment of grounded leadership at a time.

You don't have to be harsh to hold others accountable. You can make expectations clear and also guide with empathy. Follow these steps: 1. Be the Example Model the excellence you expect. Lead by doing. 2. Set a Clear Vision Define success. Ensure everyone's on the same page. 3. Use Constructive Feedback Offer it often. Be supportive and non-judgmental. It's fuel for their growth. 4. Check-In, Not Just Up Regular touchpoints keep everyone aligned. And keep stress levels in check. 5. Empower Your Team Let them own their tasks. Be their guide, not their shadow. 6. Tackle Challenges Together When issues arise, address them head-on. But always focus on solutions. 7. Celebrate the Wins Show you see and value their efforts. It's the best kind of motivation. That's accountability with a heart. ➟ High expectations ➟ Genuine support ➟ Together, you succeed Be a leader that combines empathy with expectations. Find this valuable? Repost to share with others ♻️. And follow Nihar Chhaya, MBA, MCC for more. P.S. Want a high-res PDF of this infographic? Try my free newsletter: https://lnkd.in/gGCNyeGj

🤐 "Dead Air" on Zoom? It’s Not Disengagement — It’s Cultural. 🌏 Your global team is brilliant, but meetings are met with silence. You ask for input, and… nothing. It’s not that they don’t care. It’s cultural. In many cultures, challenging a leader publicly can feel disrespectful. Speaking up might risk "losing face." So, instead of collaboration, you get cautious nods, and critical ideas die quietly. 💥 The cost? Missed feedback, hidden conflicts, derailed timelines, and talent feeling unseen and unheard. But it doesn’t have to be this way. 🚀 Here’s how to encourage real participation and build trust across cultures — starting today. 1️⃣ Invite opinions privately first. Many cultures value privacy and may hesitate to disagree publicly. Before the meeting, send out an agenda and ask for input by email or private chat. This gives team members time to reflect and feel safer sharing. 2️⃣ Create "round robin" sharing moments. During the call, explicitly invite each person to share, one by one. Use phrases like: "I’d love to hear a quick insight from everyone, no wrong answers." This reduces the fear of interrupting or "stepping out of line." 3️⃣ Model vulnerability as a leader. Share your own uncertainties or challenges first. For example: "I’m not sure this is the best approach — I’d really value your perspective." When you show it’s safe to be open, your team will follow. 4️⃣ Acknowledge and validate contributions publicly. After someone shares, affirm them clearly. For example: "Thank you for that perspective — it really helps us see this from a new angle." This builds psychological safety and encourages future participation. 5️⃣ Use cultural "mirroring" techniques. Mirror verbal and non-verbal cues appropriate to different cultures (e.g., nodding, using supportive phrases). Show respect for varying communication styles instead of forcing a "one-size-fits-all" dynamic. ✨Imagine meetings where every voice is heard and your team’s full potential is unlocked. Ready to stop the silence and turn diversity into your superpower? #CulturalCompetence #GlobalLeadership #InclusiveTeams #PsychologicalSafety #CrossCulturalCommunication 

The best leaders don't have all the answers. They ask the most questions. Asking questions is seen as a sign of weakness. Let's change that. When you make your team feel safe to be vulnerable, ask "silly" questions, and not know something… That’s when growth happens. Here’s how I build psychological safety in my teams: 1. Establish a no-blame culture 2. Reward growth over perfection 3. Create mentorship opportunities 4. Celebrate learning from mistakes 5. Provide anonymous feedback channels 6. Share my own missteps openly 7. Recognise calculated risk-taking 8. Encourage constant dialogue 9. Give regular, constructive feedback As leaders, we must create environments where questions are celebrated, not criticised. It isn’t stupid to ask for help. It’s smart. When I see someone asking questions, I don't see ignorance. I see: ✅ Curiosity ✅ Growth mindset ✅ Desire to learn ✅ Intelligence The next time someone on your team asks a question, celebrate it. They're not showing weakness - they're showing ambition. How do you handle questions in your workplace?

Communication is the glue that holds teams together, but even the smallest cracks can lead to major fractures if left unaddressed. Imagine trying to build a strong, sturdy wall without noticing the hairline cracks forming—those tiny issues eventually compromise the whole structure. The same is true for communication within teams. Here’s why communication cracks happen and how to address them before they break the team dynamic: 1️⃣ Clarity Over Assumptions One of the biggest causes of communication cracks is the assumption that everyone is on the same page. Leaders often believe their instructions are clear, while team members interpret them differently. The solution? Prioritize clarity. Spell things out, confirm understanding, ask for play backs from your audience and encourage team members to ask questions. It’s far better to over-communicate to get it wrong. 2️⃣ Build a Culture of Openness Fear of speaking up is a silent communication killer. If team members feel like they can’t ask questions, provide feedback, or share concerns, cracks start forming. Leaders must actively create an environment where openness is celebrated. Foster trust by inviting feedback regularly and responding with empathy and action. 3️⃣ Don’t Let Digital Overwhelm Human Connections In today’s workplace, we rely heavily on emails, chats, and virtual meetings. While these tools are convenient, they can dilute the human element of communication. Misinterpretations happen, and nuances are lost. Incorporate more face-to-face (or virtual face-to-face) conversations for clarity and connection. Sometimes, a 5-minute chat can fix what a dozen emails cannot. 4️⃣ Active Listening is Non-Negotiable Effective communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about listening. Leaders and team members alike need to practice active listening. This means not just hearing words but understanding intent, emotions, and the bigger picture. Active listening makes people feel valued and prevents misunderstandings from growing into bigger issues. 5️⃣ Address Conflict Early Unresolved conflict is one of the most visible cracks in team communication. When issues are ignored, they fester and grow, creating divides that are hard to repair. Address conflicts as soon as they arise. Create an environment where disagreements can be discussed constructively and lead to solutions, not resentment. Take Action Before It’s Too Late Communication cracks, if ignored, don’t just affect a single project or conversation—they compromise trust, productivity, and the overall health of the team. Proactively addressing them ensures your team remains aligned, resilient, and effective. What’s one step you’ll take this week to strengthen communication within your team? Let’s start the conversation below. 👇 #CommunicationMatters #TeamSuccess #ConflictResolution #Leadership #WorkplaceCulture #RuthOnLeadership

At DISQO, to of core values are, “Be Relentlessly All In” and “Win as One Team.” Both sound simple on paper or on the wall, and they are the secret sauce in our recipe for success. In short, they mean nothing should get in the way of us helping DISQO and our customers win, even at the expense of personal preference or advantage. Because it means creating a future where we all win together, we need to keep a high bar for how we share feedback. That includes when we are getting it right and especially when we are getting it wrong. Sharing feedback protects our culture and our advantage only if we are willing to have the hard conversations. Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t protect your culture. It erodes it. When someone receives three straight performance reviews, clear expectations, and multiple chances to change and still refuses, it is no longer a performance problem. It is an accountability problem. Leaders do not get to look away. Standards do not uphold themselves. If you want a culture of ownership, you have to protect it in moments like these. So what does that look like? Here are 5 steps to lead through the hard conversation with clarity, not cruelty: 🔥 1. Anchor in evidence 📊 Start with the facts: "Here is what we have discussed. Here is what has not changed." You are not giving an opinion. You are reporting the pattern. 🔍 2. Say the thing 🎯 Do not water it down: "At this point, it is no longer just about performance. It is about your response to feedback." If it is hard to say, it probably needs to be said. 🔄 3. Shift the burden 🧭 Make the next move theirs: "It is your choice whether or not to take action. But we cannot continue as we are." Ownership is the signal. Enable it, do not carry it. 🎯 4. Set a specific next step 🗓️ Be clear: “By Friday, I expect a written plan with measurable steps and early action already in motion.” Accountability lives in clarity, not ambiguity. 🤝 5. Stay human, not soft 💬 You can be clear and respectful: “I want to see you succeed. But that will not happen unless something changes now.” Respect is not silence. It is truth with empathy. Creating the future means leading in the hardest times.. Where it is uncomfortable. Where most people hesitate. And where real culture is made or lost. Say what needs to be said. That is how you protect the work, the team, and the standard. #CreateTheFuture #LeadershipInAction #CultureMatters #RadicalCandor #LeadWithClarity #DISQO