Trust and Negotiation: What to Keep in Mind

Ethical sales hacks I know now I wish I knew starting out: (Here's how to keep the ball in the air long enough to score) ➠ 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁: Building trust isn't just good ethics, it's good business. Early in my career, I learned hard sales might bring quick wins, but trust wins the marathon. Here’s how: • Reputation • Consistency • Authenticity • Transparency ➠ 𝗟𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗢𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴: Listening more than talking is a game-changer. Stop thinking about what you’re going to say next. There is nothing more important than giving your full attention to the person in front of you. It's not about convincing; it's about understanding needs and providing solutions: • Active listening • Tailored solutions • Clarifying questions ➠ 𝗩𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲 𝗕𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗮𝗹𝗲: I used to think closing was everything. Now I know providing value upfront builds stronger, lasting relationships: • Build credibility • Share knowledge • Solve a small problem for free Prove you can help by actually helping. ➠ 𝗛𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝗡𝗲𝗴𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: In negotiations, honesty creates more than deals—it builds bridges. Overselling or hiding facts can backfire: • Be upfront about limits • Seek win-win outcomes • Don't promise what you can't deliver How you do one thing is how you do everything. ➠ 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 ‘𝗡𝗼': Respecting a ‘no’ can be more powerful than pushing a yes. It shows respect and leaves the door open for future opportunities: • Long-term mindset • Respect boundaries • No means not now, not never Don’t ignore them though, there’s nothing wrong with reaching out in the future. There’s nothing better than circling back to share some new info and picking up a new client in the same stride. ➠ 𝗘𝗱𝘂𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲, 𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗠𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗽𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲: Education is the heart of ethical selling. Help clients make informed decisions, rather than pushing for a sale with: • Clear explanations • Informative content • Honesty about pros and cons And moreover, shine a light on new problems they’ll have to deal with after experiencing your product or service. That’s growth—solve one problem and unlock a new better one. Rinse and repeat. ➠ 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲: Patience in sales was a tough lesson. Rushing clients can lead to resentment. Time can be a powerful tool in building desire and trust: • Don’t rush decisions • Follow-up, don’t push • Build relationships over time ➠ 𝗥𝗲𝗳𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗔𝗱𝗮𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴: Ethical sales is about constant learning and adapting. Reflect on your interactions, seek feedback, and always aim to improve with: • Self-reflection • Constructive feedback • Continuous improvement 𝗘𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗮 𝘁𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰; 𝗶𝘁'𝘀 𝗮 𝗽𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗼𝗽𝗵𝘆. It’s about doing right by your clients and yourself, building a business that stands the test of time. What’s your take on ethical selling? 💬 (Tell me below) ↓

A client came to me this morning (not happy) and said that their MSP gave them a document to sign stating that the MSP is absolving themselves of all risk because she wouldn't approve the security operations solution they pitched... If your idea of “risk management” is having your client sign a document that says “you tried to sell them a tool or service, and they said no” … ->you're not managing risk. You’re managing your liability. And it shows. This is one of the fastest ways to create distrust, kill rapport, and get fired. It instantly turns the relationship adversarial. You’re no longer a partner or trusted advisor, and they see you as someone shifting blame just in case something goes wrong. That’s not leadership. That’s fear. Let me ask you something, How do you think it makes your client feel when you hand them a paper to sign that says, 'This one’s on you'?” You don’t need a signature to prove they own the risk. They already do. What they need is clarity, collaboration, and leadership. Here’s a better way: -Put the risk on a shared Risk Register. -Document the conversation in context, not as a threat, but as a roadmap. -Identify compensating controls you can implement. -Make the risk visible to decision-makers...NOT to blame, but to educate. -Revisit it periodically. Shrink it over time. That’s how you build trust. That’s how you protect the relationship. And that’s how you lead clients through risk & not around it. If you frame risk as a “you didn’t buy the thing, so you’re at fault” moment, you’re losing the negotiation before it even starts. But if you treat it like a shared challenge that you’ll solve together, you build a long-term partnership. One built on truth, not transactions. Stop asking for signatures. Start showing leadership. Your clients won’t forget it...and neither will your churn rate. #msp #ciso #riskmanagement #business

𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐬. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐭𝐲. We once had to shut down four city blocks in downtown Phoenix for a private Macklemore concert. On the surface, it sounds like logistics. In reality, it was about trust. It took a month meeting with city departments, knocking on doors, and listening to city employees who mostly wanted to help the public, get a paycheck and benefits, plus not lose their job. Each had their own concerns: safety, traffic, liability or what would their boss do to them. Instead of pushing my agenda, I focused on their pain points and showed that I understood what mattered to them.  After the month of planning, we started at 2:15 the morning of the concert, to set up - they would not let us close the roads, then I convinced them it was okay, after the bars closed. That’s how you move big, complicated projects forward. Not with pressure. Not with shortcuts, instead - by giving people confidence that you see them, hear them, and will protect their interests (if nothing else, that they won’t get fired, their kids will be okay and life will be good). The principle is simple. 𝐈𝐟 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲’𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐫𝐬. 𝐈𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐨𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐫 𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲’𝐥𝐥 𝐜𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦. Whether you’re closing a deal, running a campaign, or trying to get four blocks of a city to shut down, the foundation is the same: trust built through listening. What’s one way you’ve built trust in a tough negotiation? #Trust #Negotiation #DealMaking #TILTTheRoom #MediaLaw #Macklemore Christopher Voss Kwame Christian, Esq., M.A. Alexandra Carter Dr. Robert Cialdini Scott Tillema