Techniques for Resolving Trust Conflicts

I once worked with a team that was, quite frankly, toxic. The same two team members routinely derailed meeting agendas. Eye-rolling was a primary form of communication. Side conversations overtook the official discussion. Most members had disengaged, emotionally checking out while physically present. Trust was nonexistent. This wasn't just unpleasant—it was preventing meaningful work from happening. The transformation began with a deceptively simple intervention: establishing clear community agreements. Not generic "respect each other" platitudes, but specific behavioral norms with concrete descriptions of what they looked like in practice. The team agreed to norms like "Listen to understand," "Speak your truth without blame or judgment," and "Be unattached to outcome." For each norm, we articulated exactly what it looked like in action, providing language and behaviors everyone could recognize. More importantly, we implemented structures to uphold these agreements. A "process observer" role was established, rotating among team members, with the explicit responsibility to name when norms were being upheld or broken during meetings. Initially, this felt awkward. When the process observer first said, "I notice we're interrupting each other, which doesn't align with our agreement to listen fully," the room went silent. But within weeks, team members began to self-regulate, sometimes even catching themselves mid-sentence. Trust didn't build overnight. It grew through consistent small actions that demonstrated reliability and integrity—keeping commitments, following through on tasks, acknowledging mistakes. Meeting time was protected and focused on meaningful work rather than administrative tasks that could be handled via email. The team began to practice active listening techniques, learning to paraphrase each other's ideas before responding. This simple practice dramatically shifted the quality of conversation. One team member later told me, "For the first time, I felt like people were actually trying to understand my perspective rather than waiting for their turn to speak." Six months later, the transformation was remarkable. The same team that once couldn't agree on a meeting agenda was collaboratively designing innovative approaches to their work. Conflicts still emerged, but they were about ideas rather than personalities, and they led to better solutions rather than deeper divisions. The lesson was clear: trust doesn't simply happen through team-building exercises or shared experiences. It must be intentionally cultivated through concrete practices, consistently upheld, and regularly reflected upon. Share one trust-building practice that's worked well in your team experience. P.S. If you’re a leader, I recommend checking out my free challenge: The Resilient Leader: 28 Days to Thrive in Uncertainty  https://lnkd.in/gxBnKQ8n

“We have a feedback culture.”   That’s what the slide says in your onboarding deck.  But here’s what the team actually feels: → “If I speak up, I’ll be labeled ‘difficult.’” → “If I share the real issue, I’ll lose trust.” → “If I name what’s broken, I’ll be the problem.” That’s not feedback. That’s fear. And fear doesn’t build trust. It builds silence. Here’s how to start changing that 👇 1️⃣ Ask questions they’re scared to answer. Try: “What’s one thing we’re not talking about that we should be?” 2️⃣ Respond to feedback like it’s a gift especially when it stings. If you defend, they won’t bring it again. 3️⃣ Give feedback in real time, not once a year. Waiting for performance reviews = waiting too long. 4️⃣ Model emotional regulation. Your tone and energy determine if the room opens up or shuts down. 5️⃣ Normalize disagreement. If your team always agrees with you, they probably don’t feel safe enough to be honest. 6️⃣ Show them how to speak up then protect them when they do. Psychological safety isn’t just permission. It’s protection. 7️⃣ Do your own work. Your self-awareness sets the ceiling for theirs. No inner work = no outer trust. You don’t earn trust through words. You earn it through nervous systems. Because if people can’t breathe around you, they won’t be honest with you. Want to lead a team where truth feels safe? Start with how you listen. - ♻️ Repost to help leaders prioritize psychological safety 🔔 Follow me Julia Laszlo for radically honest leadership talk

Silent conflict erodes trust and kills teams. Bad leaders avoid tough conversations. Great ones confront and harness them. The difference? Knowing how to use strategic frameworks to handle conflicts intentionally. Here are 4 frameworks you should know: 1️⃣ The Dual Concern Model - Think through your needs vs. others' needs - Pick your conflict resolution strategy intentionally 2️⃣ Principled Negotiation - Focus on interests, not positions - Separate people from problems - Use objective criteria, not opinions - Generate multiple options that benefit all sides 3️⃣ Nonviolent Communication - Express observations without judgment - Share feelings without blame - Connect to underlying needs - Make clear, actionable requests 4️⃣ The LEAPS Model - Listen actively to understand viewpoints - Empathize with emotions, not just logic - Ask questions to gain deeper insights - Paraphrase to confirm understanding - Summarize and create actionable solutions Great teams don't tiptoe around conflict. They have systems to transform it into opportunity. What other strategies would you recommend? Share in comments. ♻️ Find this valuable? Repost to help others. Follow me for posts on leadership, learning, and excellence. 📌 Want free PDFs of this and my top cheat sheets? You can find them here: https://lnkd.in/g2t-cU8P Hi 👋 I'm Vince, CEO of Sparkwise. I help orgs scale excellence at a fraction of the cost by automating live group learning, practice, and application. Check out our topic library: https://lnkd.in/gKbXp_Av

These 4 words can make anyone anxious: "We need to talk." The problem isn't having hard conversations: It's how most people approach them. I used to wing these conversations and wonder why they went sideways. Then I studied how the top 1% of leaders handle conflict. The difference? They have a system. Most leaders wing difficult conversations and create more problems. Smart leaders use proven frameworks that build trust while addressing issues. Here's the approach that transformed my leadership: ✅ Phase 1 - Foundation Setting: "Thanks for your patience. I've thought things through so we can have a productive conversation." This immediately signals you're not reactive: You are thoughtful and solution-focused. ✅ Phase 2 - Trust Building: "I trust you and that's why I'm being straight with you." You lead with respect, making it clear this isn't about their worth as a person. ✅ Phase 3 - Context Setting: "I want to be transparent. This impacts our success." Connect the conversation to shared goals, not personal frustrations. ✅ Phase 4 - Reality Acknowledgment: "This might be hard, but I want us to work through it together." You acknowledge difficulty while committing to partnership. ✅ Phase 5 - Problem Focus: "Something's affecting your results. Let's handle it together." Action-oriented language that invites collaboration. ✅ Phase 6 - Preparation Time: "Let's meet tomorrow to review data. Bring your take." Respectful timing that allows for thoughtful responses. ✅ Phase 7 - Solution Mode: "We've been falling behind. How can we fix this together?" Partnership language focused on forward movement. The result? Conversations that could have ended relationships actually strengthened them. Hard conversations need not take a negative turn. They are investments in better outcomes. What conversation framework will you try first? ♻️ Repost this to help leaders navigate difficult conversations strategically. 🔔 Follow Dr. Oliver Degnan for more strategies on Burnout, Productivity and Leadership.

Scrum Master: How would you manage team conflict? Conflict is inevitable. Staying stuck is optional. Ever found yourself in the middle of a heated conversation during a Sprint Retrospective or a planning session? You’re not alone. Conflict is a sign that people care but without the right approach, it can derail progress fast. Here’s a 5-Step Conflict Resolution Framework from Harry Karydes I’ve used (and coached teams on) to turn tension into TRUST 1. Identify the Root Cause ↳ Get beyond surface-level complaints. ↳ Ask open-ended questions: “What’s really bothering you?” ↳ Separate symptoms from the real issue. 2. Acknowledge & Validate Perspectives ↳ Let each person speak without interruptions. ↳ Reflect back what you heard: “What I hear you saying is…” ↳ Validate emotions, even if you don’t agree. 3. Focus on Solutions, Not Blame ↳ Shift from “Who’s at fault?” to “What’s the best way forward?” ↳ Brainstorm options together. ↳ Align solutions with team goals. 4. Create a Clear Action Plan ↳ Define who does what by when. ↳ Set measurable steps and accountability. ↳ Write it down; verbal agreements fade. 5. Reinforce the Resolution ↳ Follow up: “Is the solution working?” ↳ Address lingering issues early. ↳ Celebrate progress to rebuild trust. Pro Tip: The BEST Scrum Masters and Agile Coaches don’t avoid conflict. They facilitate healthy resolution that strengthens the team. What’s your go-to approach when conflict surfaces in your team? Drop your thoughts or tips in the comments!