Building Trust With Major Donors Over Time

Want to raise money from foundations? It's not just about persistence—it's about speaking their language. When I first started seeking foundation support for Mongabay, I faced a wall of silence. No responses. When I was lucky, I got a "No thanks." At the time, I thought I was taking the right approach. I targeted foundations aligned with our work in journalism and conservation. But I quickly learned that good alignment isn't enough. The way I framed our work needed to change. Program officers aren't just looking to support great causes; they want to achieve impact. Once I shifted my outreach to focus on how Mongabay could help them achieve their goals, my success rate increased—though there are still far more non-responses and nos than yeses. Here are a few lessons I've learned: 1/ Focus on their objectives, not yours. ↳ Foundations are often trying to solve complex challenges. Instead of leading with what Mongabay does, I began emphasizing how our work supports their mission. 2/ Be concise and clear. ↳ Program officers are busy. Long-winded pitches didn’t get me far. Clear, succinct messaging worked better. 3/ Cold outreach is tough. ↳ The reality? Most cold messages go unanswered. Whenever possible, I leaned on introductions where I could get them. 4/ Relationships matter. ↳ In philanthropy, as in life, trust is built over time. Regular updates, even when not tied to an ask, help maintain connections. 5/ Measure impact. ↳ Reporting back on how foundation support has translated into tangible results has been key to securing renewals. Even now, I don't have all—or even most—of the answers. But over the years, I've seen Mongabay's foundation support grow from zero to several million dollars annually. This increased support has allowed us to expand from a team of two to about 120, dramatically scaling our impact. It's clear proof that refining your approach can lead to meaningful results. For those navigating the fundraising landscape, remember: Foundations aren’t just writing checks; they’re investing in outcomes. Speak to that, and you’re on the right path.

Your major donor just called and listed out all of their frustrations. You won't like what they had to say. It wasn't about money. It wasn't about competing priorities. It wasn't about the economy. It was about you. "They never told me what my gift accomplished," they said. "I gave $25,000 and got a form letter thank you. Then nothing for eight months." "When I finally called to ask about impact, they couldn't give me specifics. Just vague statements about 'helping the community.'" "I realized they didn't see me as a partner. They saw me as an ATM." ‼️ The organizations losing major donors aren't victims of donor fatigue. They're victims of donor neglect. ‼️ Your major donors don't leave because they can't afford to give. They leave because you can't afford to care. Pull up your major donor communications from the last year. For each donor over $10,000, ask: 👉 Did they receive specific impact reports tied to their gift? 👉 Did someone call them personally within 3-5 days? 👉 Did they get invited to see their impact firsthand? 👉 Did you ask for their input on organizational direction? If you answered "no" to any of these, you've got a problem. The most successful major donor programs I work with treat donors like investors, not transactions: 👉 They provide quarterly impact reports with specific outcomes. 👉 They invite donors to strategic planning conversations. 👉 They offer behind-the-scenes access to programs and leadership. 👉 They ask for advice, not just money. Your major donors aren't leaving because they don't care about your mission. They're leaving because you don't care about them. Fix your relationship problem before you blame donor capacity. Because in fundraising, how you treat donors after they give determines whether they'll give again.

Many donor conversations focus on what we want from them. These 5 questions focus on what matters to them: 1. "What first connected you to our mission?" (Reveals their personal story and values alignment) 2. "Of everything we do, what resonates most with you?" (Identifies which aspects of your work they value most) 3. "What impact would you most like to see your support create?" (Uncovers their vision and aspirations) 4. "How would you prefer to stay connected with our work?" (Respects their communication preferences) 5. "Who else in your life might find meaning in this work?" (Opens doors to their network naturally) The magic happens in the follow-up: "Tell me more about that..." Then, you can mirror: "It sounds like you're saying that..." These questions transform transactional interactions into relationship-building conversations. They signal that you value the person, not just their wallet. I've seen these questions uncover major gift opportunities, reveal passionate volunteers, identify board prospects, and most importantly—build authentic relationships that last. What's your go-to question when speaking with donors?