How to Use Listening and Feedback in Internal Communications

I bet most of you haven't heard of this… What? “𝘓𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴.” I've been an executive coach and a marriage counselor for over 30 years. I've engaged with thousands of leaders and couples. And if I have to pinpoint one thing that most of them fail at, it'll be, 𝘓𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴. Not just hearing.  Not just listening. It doesn't matter how often your employees give you their feedback or how frequently your partner may say something. They can talk all they want, but if you fail to listen and comprehend—nothing is ever going to change. In fact, things will just go downhill. 𝘚𝘰 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴? Well, it requires intentionality, patience, an open mind, and a desire to truly understand. Here’s the roadmap laid out for you: 𝐆𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐅𝐮𝐥𝐥 𝐀𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧. 📌Focus completely on the speaker. Put away distractions like phones or other devices. 📌Maintain eye contact to show you're engaged and attentive. 📌Show genuine non-verbal cues like nodding or using facial expressions to indicate your interest. 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐒𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐒𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤. 📌Avoid interrupting or finishing the speaker's sentences. Let them express themselves fully. 📌Be patient, especially if the speaker is hesitant or takes time to articulate their thoughts. 📌Do not be thinking about your response, but remain in the moment. 𝐋𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬. 📌Pay attention to the speaker's tone of voice, pitch, volume, and body language. Emotions often manifest in these aspects. 📌Look for signs of frustration, excitement, sadness, or other emotional cues. 𝐀𝐬𝐤 𝐎𝐩𝐞𝐧-𝐄𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬. 📌Encourage the speaker to share more by asking questions that can't be answered with a simple "yes" or "no." 📌Examples include "𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭?" or "𝘊𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵?" 𝐄𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭. 📌Show empathy by acknowledging the speaker's feelings and experiences. You can say, "𝘐 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶." or “𝘐 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘶𝘱 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦.” 📌Reflect back on what you've heard to confirm your understanding. For example, "𝘚𝘰, 𝘪𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨..." 𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫: Listen to understand–not just reply. #leadershipcoach #executivecoach #leadershipdevelopment

As a recruiter, I am a firm believer in the extraordinary power of listening, considering it one of our most crucial abilities. In the rush of our busy lives, it's easy to underestimate the impact of truly hearing someone. But make no mistake, it can be a game-changer - both professionally and personally. » Listening Builds Trust: When we actively listen to our candidates and clients, we're not just hearing words; we're absorbing their stories, aspirations, and concerns. This builds a foundation of trust that is vital in our line of work. Trust opens doors, fosters collaboration, and paves the way for genuine relationships. » Meeting Needs: Every candidate and client has unique needs. By listening attentively, we gain the insight needed to tailor our services to precisely those needs. It's like having a map to navigate the often complex terrain of recruitment. » Valuing Perspectives: Listening also allows us to appreciate different perspectives. It reminds us that diversity isn't just about backgrounds and experiences; it's about the richness of ideas that emerge when we truly engage with others. » Resolving Issues: In the face of challenges or conflicts, listening can be the first step to resolution. It shows empathy and a willingness to understand, which can be the turning point in solving even the most intricate problems. So, how can we cultivate this superpower? ☆ Be Present: Put away distractions and give your full attention. Show that you value what the other person is saying. ☆ Empathize: Try to understand not just the words but the emotions behind them. This empathy is the bedrock of trust. ☆ Ask Questions: Encourage open dialogue. Sometimes, the most profound insights emerge from the questions we ask. ☆ Practice Patience: Listening takes time, but it's an investment that pays dividends in the form of strong, lasting relationships. ☆ Feedback Loop: Remember, listening isn't just about hearing; it's about responding. Show that you've listened by taking actions that reflect what you've heard. In the realm of recruitment, much like in life itself, I believe the art of listening serves as our covert advantage. It enables us to forge profound connections, deliver authentic value, and, ultimately, leave a positive imprint. #BuildingTrust #LoveWhatYouDo #YouMatter #EffectiveCommunication Next Level Career Partners, LLC

Managers struggle in their first leadership role. I know that I initially did... Suddenly at the head of a team responsible for course content used by 100s of trainers and 1000s of students, I found myself up the proverbial creek. How do I plan our projects for the year ahead? What strategy do I set? What's a budget? And I really didn't even consider such soft skills like how to support or motivate the team. However, the most difficult aspect was feedback. Without a good manager who could model how to provide feedback, I felt confused. What should I say? When should I give feedback? What if the employee disagrees with me? And I really didn't even consider how any feedback fits into long-term development. This brings me to my point... Here are 5 tips for better feedback. 💡 You need to be direct in the feedback that you give. Although easy to do with positive feedback, you might use weak language with difficult or negative information. Unfortunately, when you hint or sidestep around the negative, employees may not fully understand the seriousness of the issue. 💡 You need to also give guidance. You cannot simply say "work on A, B, or C," because the employee likely doesn't know where to start or what specific steps will resolve the problem. You will need to provide specific information, resources, and direction. 💡 You need to follow up. It's not a one, done, and a return to happy land. Followup demonstrates the importance of the feedback, and also that you care about the person and their ongoing development. 💡 You need to practice active listening skills. This means that you ask questions to more deeply understand the issue or concern. Remember: Feedback should be part of a conversation. In other words, you talk *with* the person, not *at* the person. 💡 Feedback is ongoing. If you only give feedback at the annual performance appraisal or when there is a problem, then you don't empower your team to overcome future challenges. You will want to give feedback in 1:1s, impromptu meetings, and even casual chats too. PS. I really hope someone is able to give better feedback with these tips. Is there anything you would add to the list? 🔔 Follow Chris Cotter for more on #leadership.