How to Improve Networking Conversations

"You are so interesting to talk to!" My networking partner said this after our coffee chat last week. Plot twist: I barely talked about myself. For 45 minutes, I asked about her career transition. Her challenges with remote team management. What she was learning about AI implementation. I listened. Asked follow-up questions. Showed genuine curiosity about her experience. She did 80% of the talking. Yet somehow, I was the "interesting" one. This reminded me of something negotiation expert Chris Voss teaches: interested people are interesting!!! It sounds backwards, but it works. The best networking conversations I have had? I spent most of them learning about the other person's journey, not pitching my own. The strongest professional relationships I have built? They started with me asking "What's the most challenging part of your role right now?" instead of leading with my resume. Here's what I have learned about building real connections: Stop trying to be impressive. Start being impressed by others. Ask questions that matter to them. Listen like their answer will teach you something new. Because it probably will. The fastest way to become memorable is to make others feel heard. What's the best question you have been asked in a networking conversation? What made it so good?

Top 3 informational "interview" mistakes I see ... I have to be honest. I’ve had a lot of these conversations. I see the same missteps over and over. Doesn’t matter if you’re just starting out or deep into your career. Why most people miss the mark: 1️⃣ They treat it like a job interview (it’s not). 2️⃣ They ask surface-level questions (curiosity is your superpower—go beyond “What do you do?" "Can you recommend me for this role?") 3️⃣ They don’t follow up (huge missed opportunity. Not just immediately but 3-6-9 months out). Here’s how to fix it: ✅ Shift your mindset—go in to learn, not to impress. ✅ Ask better questions—“What skills helped you succeed?” “Based on my background, do you think I’d be a good fit for this role-company-industry?” "What keeps you excited about your work?" “Where do you see this industry heading?” "Who else would you recommend I speak with?" ✅ Follow up—send a thank-you, reference something specific and keep the door open. This is a great time to communicate your hook. Small tweaks, big impact. The goal isn’t just networking—it’s creating connections that open doors. Comment 👇, what are some of the pitfalls you see in these conversations?

Networking changed my life. I made friends I wouldn't have met otherwise, built business partnerships that bring us millions, and landed book deals I never imagined. Here’s my 5-step system to network better: Step 1: Make Two Strategic Lists List 1: People you already know who you want to deepen relationships with: • Friends of friends you'd like to know better • The VIP in your office you see at holiday parties • That colleague you want to move from professional to friendship List 2: People you want to meet (can be specific names or types) • "The sales director at X company" • "Someone in renewable energy" • "A startup founder in my city" Being specific makes it infinitely easier to take action.  ____ 2. Schedule a “Connection Hour.” Every week, I block one hour just for relationships. For me, it’s Tuesday happy hour. I fill that time slot with: • A new contact • A coffee catch-up • A LinkedIn message to someone on my list Without time on the calendar, connection never happens. ____ Step 3: Ask Goal-Oriented Questions Stop asking "How's work?". Start asking questions that spark deeper conversations: • "What gets you up in the morning?" • "What goals are you working on this year?" • "What's the biggest project you're excited about?" These questions make people think deeper, give you something memorable to follow up on, and transform small talk into real connection. ____ Step 4: Adopt the "Offer Mentality" Flip the script from "What can I get?" to "What can I offer?". Simple ways to help: • Write a LinkedIn recommendation • Share a relevant article or opportunity • Introduce them to someone in their target industry • Send vacation recommendations if they're planning a trip The more I give, the more trust I build - and the more people want to stay connected. ____ Step 5: Follow Up Like Your Grandmother Remember when grandmothers used to mail newspaper clippings they thought you'd find interesting? Do the digital version. Powerful follow-up strategies: • Send relevant articles • Forward interesting links • Send birthday messages • Write LinkedIn recommendations • Share opportunities you think they'd love I’ve shared these 5 steps with hundreds of people, and they’ve seen real results. Now it’s your turn.