Building Trust When Team Dynamics Are Shaky

I once worked with a team that was, quite frankly, toxic. The same two team members routinely derailed meeting agendas. Eye-rolling was a primary form of communication. Side conversations overtook the official discussion. Most members had disengaged, emotionally checking out while physically present. Trust was nonexistent. This wasn't just unpleasant—it was preventing meaningful work from happening. The transformation began with a deceptively simple intervention: establishing clear community agreements. Not generic "respect each other" platitudes, but specific behavioral norms with concrete descriptions of what they looked like in practice. The team agreed to norms like "Listen to understand," "Speak your truth without blame or judgment," and "Be unattached to outcome." For each norm, we articulated exactly what it looked like in action, providing language and behaviors everyone could recognize. More importantly, we implemented structures to uphold these agreements. A "process observer" role was established, rotating among team members, with the explicit responsibility to name when norms were being upheld or broken during meetings. Initially, this felt awkward. When the process observer first said, "I notice we're interrupting each other, which doesn't align with our agreement to listen fully," the room went silent. But within weeks, team members began to self-regulate, sometimes even catching themselves mid-sentence. Trust didn't build overnight. It grew through consistent small actions that demonstrated reliability and integrity—keeping commitments, following through on tasks, acknowledging mistakes. Meeting time was protected and focused on meaningful work rather than administrative tasks that could be handled via email. The team began to practice active listening techniques, learning to paraphrase each other's ideas before responding. This simple practice dramatically shifted the quality of conversation. One team member later told me, "For the first time, I felt like people were actually trying to understand my perspective rather than waiting for their turn to speak." Six months later, the transformation was remarkable. The same team that once couldn't agree on a meeting agenda was collaboratively designing innovative approaches to their work. Conflicts still emerged, but they were about ideas rather than personalities, and they led to better solutions rather than deeper divisions. The lesson was clear: trust doesn't simply happen through team-building exercises or shared experiences. It must be intentionally cultivated through concrete practices, consistently upheld, and regularly reflected upon. Share one trust-building practice that's worked well in your team experience. P.S. If you’re a leader, I recommend checking out my free challenge: The Resilient Leader: 28 Days to Thrive in Uncertainty  https://lnkd.in/gxBnKQ8n

I’ve found myself navigating meetings when a colleague or team member is emotionally overwhelmed. One person came to me like a fireball, angry and frustrated. A peer had triggered them deeply. After recognizing that I needed to shift modes, I took a breath and said, “Okay, tell me what's happening.” I realized they didn’t want a solution. I thought to myself: They must still be figuring out how to respond and needed time to process. They are trusting me to help. I need to listen. In these moments, people often don’t need solutions; they need presence. There are times when people are too flooded with feelings to answer their own questions. This can feel counterintuitive in the workplace, where our instincts are tuned to solve, fix, and move forward. But leadership isn’t just about execution; it’s also about emotional regulation and providing psychological safety. When someone approaches you visibly upset, your job isn’t to immediately analyze or correct. Instead, your role is to listen, ground the space, and ensure they feel heard. This doesn't mean abandoning accountability or ownership; quite the opposite. When people feel safe, they’re more likely to engage openly in dialogue. The challenging part is balancing reassurance without minimizing the issue, lowering standards, or compromising team expectations. There’s also a potential trap: eventually, you'll need to shift from emotional containment to clear, kind feedback. But that transition should come only after the person feels genuinely heard, not before. Timing matters. Trust matters. If someone is spinning emotionally, be the steady presence. Be the one who notices. Allow them to guide the pace. Then, after the storm passes, and only then, you can invite reflection and growth. This is how you build a high-trust, high-performance culture: one conversation, one moment of grounded leadership at a time.

Trust doesn't come from your accomplishments. It comes from quiet moves like these: For years I thought I needed more experience, achievements, and wins to earn trust. But real trust isn't built through credentials. It's earned in small moments, consistent choices, and subtle behaviors that others notice - even when you think they don't. Here are 15 quiet moves that instantly build trust 👇🏼 1. You close open loops, catching details others miss ↳ Send 3-bullet wrap-ups after meetings. Reliability builds. 2. You name tension before it gets worse ↳ Name what you sense: "The energy feels different today" 3. You speak softly in tense moments ↳ Lower your tone slightly when making key points. Watch others lean in. 4. You stay calm when others panic, leading with stillness ↳ Take three slow breaths before responding. Let your calm spread. 5. You make space for quiet voices ↳ Ask "What perspective haven't we heard yet?", then wait. 6. You remember and reference what others share ↳ Keep a Key Details note for each relationship in your phone. 7. You replace "but" with "and" to keep doors open ↳ Practice "I hear you, and here's what's possible" 8. You show up early with presence and intention ↳ Close laptop, turn phone face down 2 minutes before others arrive. 9. You speak up for absent team members ↳ Start with "X made an important point about this last week" 10. You turn complaints into possibility ↳ Replace "That won't work" with "Let's experiment with..." 11. You build in space for what really matters ↳ Block 10 min buffers between meetings. Others will follow. 12. You keep small promises to build trust bit by bit ↳ Keep a "promises made" note in your phone. Track follow-through. 13. You protect everyone's time, not just your own ↳ End every meeting 5 minutes early. Set the standard. 14. You ask questions before jumping to fixes ↳ Lead with "What have you tried so far?" before suggesting solutions. 15. You share credit for wins and own responsibility for misses ↳ Use "we" for successes, "I" for challenges. Watch trust grow. Your presence speaks louder than your resume. Trust is earned in these quiet moments. Which move will you practice first? Share below 👇🏼 -- ♻️ Repost to help your network build authentic trust without the struggle 🔔 Follow me Dr. Carolyn Frost for more strategies on leading with quiet impact

This notion held me back for a long time: I thought leadership is about performance. But it’s really about impact. And after learning that, my focus entirely shifted. I’ve coached dozens of high-performing teams, And here’s what I’ve seen again and again: Your team doesn’t just need direction. They need someone who’s in their corner when it matters most. Because behind every disengaged team is a leader who stayed silent when they should’ve stepped in. Here are 5 hidden threats that silently erode your team’s trust: ❌ Gossip and drama Creates division faster than poor strategy ❌ Fear of failure Shuts down creativity and risk-taking ❌ Quiet overwork: Exhaustion that no one’s talking about ❌ No recognition: People burn out when no one notices ❌ Blame culture: One mistake becomes a career killer Now here’s how the best leaders prevent it: ✅ Protect well-being: Model work-life boundaries out loud ✅ Celebrate effort: Acknowledge the process, not just the outcome ✅ Make space for voice: Invite real opinions ✅ Normalize failure: Turn mistakes into growth stories ✅ Be their shield: Speak up when it counts, especially behind closed doors Because when your team feels safe, supported, and seen: They don’t just perform. They soar. Strong leaders aren’t loud. They’re loyal when it’s hardest to be. If you want to build a team that thrives, start by being the kind of leader who protects them—when no one else is watching. And level up here every week : read.drdegnan.com Which of these will you put into action this week? ♻️Share this if you believe trust is a leadership strategy.

'My executives are all A-players. They just don't trust each other.' That's what a $60M CEO told me over coffee this morning. His revenue was up 40%, but his leadership team was falling apart. Sound familiar? Here's the counterintuitive truth I've learned after working with dozens of scaling companies: High performers often create low trust. Not because they're untrustworthy, but because they're too capable. Think about it. When you stack your leadership team with ambitious, competent executives, each one is used to being 'the person with the answers.' They've built careers on being right. But scaling a business isn't about being right. It's about being aligned. Last month, I watched a Chief Revenue Officer and COO nearly sink a $100M deal. Not because either was wrong - both had valid concerns. But their inability to trust each other's judgment created decision paralysis. The real cost of low trust: - 3x longer decision cycles - Duplicated efforts across departments - Missed market opportunities - Rising stress, falling margins Your smartest executives are often your biggest trust barriers because: - They have the strongest opinions - They're used to being proven right - They've succeeded through individual excellence - They struggle with shared vulnerability Want to build trust between high performers? Start here: ✅ Create shared defeats, not just shared victories. Nothing builds trust like failing together and recovering stronger. ✅ Stop celebrating individual heroes. Start rewarding collaborative wins. ✅ Make decisions visible. Trust grows in transparency and dies in darkness. ✅ Build accountability around team outcomes, not departmental metrics. Remember: You don't have a trust problem. You have an alignment challenge. Your executives don't need trust falls. They need a compelling reason to depend on each other. Curious: Have you ever had a high-performing team that struggled with trust? What turned it around? hashtag#Leadership hashtag#OrganizationalDevelopment hashtag#ExecutiveTeam

“What am I missing?” a CEO asked me following an executive team meeting. His team felt tired, disconnected, and out of sync with his vision. “They’ve lost trust—in you, each other, and themselves,” I replied. “They’re drifting through their days like disillusioned, snarky zombies, stuck in a workplace nightmare they can’t shake. It’s sad to see them struggling and giving up on being their best selves because, honestly, what’s the point?” Despite the CEO’s efforts, his team no longer fully believed in him or the organization’s future. The joy and trust they once felt working with each other had crumbled, and constant demands for solutions only pushed them further away from him and each other. I’ve seen this too often—strained leaders, relentless pressures, and attempt at quick fixes that unravel everything teams have worked hard to build. Turning it around? Tough, but possible. Optimism isn’t about ignoring challenges—it’s about having the courage to focus on what could go right and creating the conditions to make it happen. Creating moments for reflection, understanding, and connection won’t undo months or years of disappointment, but it’s a start. Change is always possible when leaders dig deep, reflect, and address the real issues with their teams. To rebuild trust and energize his team, I advised this CEO to start with himself: - How can I clarify my vision for the team? - How do I show up when things get tough—do I blame and distance or help the team connect and make it to the other side? - Am I transparent about my intentions? - What past experiences might be influencing my current approach? - Are there barriers—structural, behavioral, or procedural—holding the team back? Then, engage the team with questions we often avoid: - Do you believe in our future? - What do you need from me, and each other, that you’re not getting? - What don’t you understand, agree with, or hesitate to ask? - How can we address personal reservations and hidden tensions without resorting to unhelpful criticism? - What are the biggest untapped opportunities for our team and organization? The goal isn’t to force connections or quick fixes but to create environments where trust, transparency, and collaboration can grow naturally. Without the will and skill to be open, true teamwork and high performance will remain out of reach. Focus on trust, and give yourself and your team the chance to become a productive, joyful, and resilient powerhouse. What’s one question you’re ready to ask yourself and your team today to rebuild trust and boost collaboration? #trust #leadership #management #joy #collaboration #diversityequityandinclusion

People often ask me for quick ways to build trust on a team. I have a dozen solid go-to moves, but one stands out because it’s dead simple and nearly always works. You’ve probably heard of the “connection before content” idea—starting meetings with a personal check-in to warm up the room. But let’s be honest: questions like “What’s your favorite color?” or “What five things would you bring on a deserted island?” don’t build trust. They just waste time. If you want a real trust-builder, here’s the question I use: “𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄?” That’s it. One question. And here’s why it works: 𝟭. It creates vulnerability without forcing it. You can’t answer this question without being a little real. And when someone’s real with you, it’s hard not to trust them more. You see the human behind the role. 𝟮. It unlocks practical support. Once I hear your challenge, I can picture how to help. I feel drawn to back you up. That’s the foundation of real partnership at work. 𝟯. It increases mutual understanding. Sometimes we feel disconnected from teammates because we don’t know what they actually do all day. When someone shares a challenge, it opens a window into their work and the complexity they’re navigating. If you’re short on time, allergic to fluff, and want something that actually bonds your team—this is your move. Ten minutes, and you’ll feel the shift."

Team trust does not exist. Trust operates on a one-to-one basis - I trust you, you trust me, I trust Bob, Bob trusts me. What we call "team trust" is really a web of individual bilateral relationships. This insight fundamentally changes how we approach team building. Instead of trying to foster "team trust" as an abstract concept, effective leaders need to map and strengthen these individual trust connections. I witnessed this recently with a leadership succession case. The team was stuck because everyone was dancing around unspoken concerns. When we finally got raw and honest about individual relationships and expectations, we accomplished six months of work in a single afternoon. The key? Creating space for vulnerable, one-on-one conversations. When the founder openly shared his personal needs and concerns about specific team members, it allowed others to do the same. This bilateral trust-building broke through years of stagnation. Remember: Team effectiveness isn't built on group trust - it's built on a foundation of strong individual relationships. #trustbuilding #leadership #systemandsoul

Did you know there’s an equation that can quantify TRUST? (Share this with your team 👇) If you’re struggling to build trust within your team, here’s a strategy that works every time I lead or manage a project. It’s called ‘The Trust Equation' by David Maister. TRUST 🟰 (Credibility + Reliability + Intimacy) ➗ Self-orientation Let me explain so you can start building trust... 1. Credibility: Are your words believable? 2. Reliability: Do your actions match your promises? 3. Intimacy: Do people feel safe sharing openly with you? 4. Self-orientation: Are you focused on others’ needs—or your own? In the equation, you are perceived as trustworthy if the sum of your (credibility + reliability + intimacy) outweighs your self-orientation. Game changer. When I first started managing teams, I thought results alone built trust. I was wrong. Here’s how I started using this framework: ⬆️ Raise Credibility: Show expertise and back it with results. ⬆️ Demonstrate Reliability: Be on time. Meet deadlines and honor commitments. ⬆️ Build Intimacy: Listen. Create safe spaces, find shared interests/experiences, and show empathy. ⬇️ Lower Self-orientation: Be willing to do thankless jobs in the shadows. Focus on team goals and celebrate others’ wins. Key insight: The top parts of the equation can compensate for each other. But a high self-orientation destroys trust and triggers alarms instantly. Why am I sharing this now? Because trust is the real currency in business, and it forms the base of team performance. If there's no trust, forget about all the tools & tactics - address trust first. Next time conflict arises, ask yourself: Do we really trust each other? What’s one way you build trust in your teams? 👇